Love is Tough

I think i finally understand what love is.


It's so easy to say you like someone and mean it. But what makes love special then? I could always hold on to one memory of a moment when you were so awesome and remind myself why i like you, but what makes that different from love?


Here's a famous verse in my own words.


The phrase "I love you" is not what i want to hear.
Not that i don't want you to say it, but you need to understand.
It is so easy to say that phrase.
Love is more than just words.


What does it mean to say i love you? Not much then. But what should it mean? Why would it make such a big difference to someone to know he or she is loved?


Because Love is tough.
I can't say i love you before abusing you.
The words i love you require a certain kind of action to back it up, if not they are empty words.


Basically saying i love you means more than just liking you for that one great thing you did. I'm saying i'll love you even when i don't like you. That's what sets love apart. Love is tough, love involves sacrifice. Love is so tough i need your help to love you. So please choose the right person, someone you can at least love when you don't necessarily feel like liking the person.


So now that we got that part clear we face the next question- why say it, why not just show it?


Here's an analogy- i could read the Bible, pray, go to church, help the poor, follow the 10 commandments and walk close to Jesus. All these are actions that show that i'm a Christian, all well and good. Do i need to get baptized to prove i'm a Christian? No. So why do i want to?


In the same way i could be showering someone with lots of love. Do i have to say aloud that i love the person to prove that i love her? No. So why should i bother?


Because i love her.


You see, actions do speak louder than words, but words backed up by actions are remembered. They are an outward expression of the heart, and such words hold so much more weight.


It's like the title of an essay. You may have written a great essay, but if you leave it untitled, it's somewhat incomplete. It's possible, but it's not complete (Opposite is true too for a great title but no essay). So seal the deal and stamp on the title and we know the work is complete. Because until it's titled and submitted, your writing is merely a draft.


So if you have been loving someone, saying I love you is more than just words to that person. It's confirmation and affirmation that the love they are feeling from you is not just for a moment. Saying i love you in this instance means i do love you, and i will love you.


And everyone loves to hear something like that.